Groups
Ten weeks, one book, six people.
A crossing is hard to make alone. Reading the book with five other people over ten weeks gives each of you a set of witnesses: people who heard you say what you are facing, and who will notice whether you moved. The group does not solve anything for you. It makes it harder to quietly stop.
The curriculum
Week 1. Everyone has to cross
Read: Introduction and chapters 1 to 2
Name one crossing you have already made, and one you have been avoiding.
For the leader
Don't rush past the naming. If someone names their crossing and it gets quiet, that's the group working.
Week 2. Why cross at all, and what a crossing is
Read: Chapters 3 to 4
Take a crossing you already made and map it to the five stages.
For the leader
Map one person's real crossing, not a hypothetical one. The framework only becomes real when it has a name attached.
Week 3. Destiny and realms
Read: Chapters 5 to 9
Which realm are you living in now, and which one is next?
For the leader
Trust is only starting to hold, so go carefully if the group begins saying what they see in each other. If someone says no one has ever crossed with them, sit with that rather than moving on.
Week 4. Promise
Read: Chapters 10 to 13
Say the promise you are holding out loud to the group.
For the leader
This is one of the quietest weeks. Let the silence do the work instead of filling it.
Week 5. Problem
Read: Chapters 14 to 18
Write down every fear attached to your crossing. Read one of them to the group.
For the leader
The fear inventory is the hardest week. Someone may cry. Let them. Don't fix it.
Week 6. Probe
Read: Chapters 19 to 23
Design a foray. What is the smallest real version of your crossing?
For the leader
Push every foray until it has a date and a place. "I'll explore options" is not a foray.
Week 7. Progress
Read: Chapters 24 to 28
Name three things earlier crossings deposited in you.
For the leader
People are bad at seeing their own growth, so let the group mirror it back to them, and give them permission to challenge an old verdict someone has carried for years.
Week 8. Prowess
Read: Chapters 29 to 32
Who are you now equipped to help across?
For the leader
Don't stop at what someone can see now that they couldn't see before. Ask who in their life needs them to name it.
Week 9. Barriers
Read: Chapters 33 to 37
Name your primary barrier and say it to the group.
For the leader
This is the confronting week. Be gentle, but don't let anyone off the hook.
Week 10. Living at a new level
Read: Chapters 38 to 41
Write a letter to yourself from the other shore.
For the leader
Read the letters out loud. This is the group's graduation.
Week 11. What's Next
Retake the assessment. See where you've moved. Then ask: who in your life needs to make a crossing? Invite them to the next group. The crossing you just made becomes the permission structure for theirs.
For the leader
Don't schedule Week 11 as a meeting. Send it the week after the group ends, when the ending has had time to land.
Joining a group you were invited to
Your leader will send you a six character code. Enter it here and the group opens.
Sign in from your crossing first, then enter the code here.